Our brains don’t like ambiguity. We are wired to create a story to explain a situation, filling in missing details we don’t know. Unfortunately, we may not realize we are doing this and can get completely bought into the story we just made up.
We also create stories about ourselves and why things happen to us, and often we have absolute certainty that our stories are true. But this may or may not be the case. Our limiting beliefs and negative self-talk may be running the show and spinning stories that have inaccuracies, or are completely incorrect.
This is why learning techniques for reframing can be incredibly effective.
According to the American Psychological Association (APA), reframing is:
n. a process of reconceptualizing a problem by seeing it from a different perspective. Altering the conceptual or emotional context of a problem often serves to alter perceptions of the problem’s difficulty and to open up possibilities for solving it. In psychotherapy, for example, the manner in which a client initially frames a problem may be self-defeating. Part of the therapist’s response might be to reframe the problem and the thoughts or feelings that the client associates with it, so as to provide alternative ways to evaluate it. Compare restatement.
It can be helpful to work with a therapist on a particularly thorny issue, but often you can do a reframing exercise on your own, with a friend, or as part of a group.
In the Sanctuary session on Monday, July 15, we will explore different techniques you can try to unravel complicated problems, creatively problem-solve, or just see a different perspective. (We meet virtually on Zoom at 8 PM Eastern / 7 PM Central).
Much of what holds us back from creating what we want in our lives are the stories we tell ourselves. Consciously reframing and objectively exploring your current situation may lead to insights and possibilities for paths forward.
This should be a fantastic conversation. If you would like to join us, let me know and I will add you to the list. There is no charge for this session.
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